Can you imagine having women in your life who support, encourage and cheer for you from the front row! You trust them with your inner most secrets, they hold up your arms when you don't have the energy to fight, and they create a place where you feel safe to be completely authentic and vulnerable without hesitation. They are "your" band of sisters and they make life GRAND!
Who wants friendship like this? ME! ME! I do...I do! And most women would.
So. . . why are so many women doing life ALONE?
Well, in my research and experience, I have found that . . .
Some women feel really awkward in social situations and have a hard time reading other people's social cues.
Some women have written off female friendships because of bad past experience.
Some women have NO idea how to begin a NEW friendship as an adult, and
Some women really don't know HOW to be a GOOD friend!
Quality friendships are a wonderful way of creating SISTERHOOD. Strong, valuable female friendships are important to women and play a very significant role in her life. They make her feel loved, supported and celebrated; helping her develop into her very best self!
I am one of the fortunate ones! I have several female friends in my life who have become my "sisters." I have women in my front row who have been there for over 20 years and they have been there through the good, the bad and the amazing! Over the years, I have come to understand the importance of giving a selective few VIP seats! These are the friends that I am most vulnerable with, most authentic with, and most expressive with. Without them, I am on the battlefield by myself and lacking in the necessary support to be incredibly successful. I am so grateful God knew who I needed!
So, what makes quality friendships and how do you start creating one.
First, it takes time. You can't build a BFF friendship in a week! LOL Quality friendship that help you thrive require 3 essential ingredients: TIME, TRUST and TESTING!
Healthy friendships among women require TIME and investment.
It's important that you make building relationship with other women a priority. Because we live in a virtual age, when you make a sincere effort to connect face to face . . . she will definitely take notice!
SISTER SUGGESTION: Be consistent in your efforts to pursue a quality relationship that mutually supports one another.
Creating sisterhood requires TRUST.
When you meet someone new, you often give her the benefit of the doubt, yes? Then over time, she slowly shows you who she REALLY is, right? So . . . when you call her to help you move, does she show up with boxes, tape and a Sharpie? Or does she blow you off and avoid your calls for the next few weeks?
SISTER SUGGESTION: Identify and establish your personal standard for your budding friendship. (Ex: Are you always making the effort and taking the initiative? Is she's just along for the ride? Or are you both mutually giving 100% to developing this new friendship? What's YOUR standard?) Friendship seem unbalanced? Start the conversation and commit to having difficult dialogue with your new friend. Speak openly and honestly and stay in the conversation. Don't retreat! Having minor disagreements and working through them together creates TRUST.
Front row friendships are always TESTED!
"Front row" means they have immediate access to your HEART! They are strategically positioned to help guard your heart from "squatters" (other women who want access to your inner circle and bogart their way in without invitation). Because front row friends are in your inner circle, they have access to easily offend.
SISTER SUGGESTION: When you place women in your front row, you are giving them an ALL-ACCESS PASS to your heart! This is your vulnerable place and it is important that you spend TIME and build TRUST BEFORE giving her a seat in your VIP section! Placing a friend on your front row is a privilege and it's important that YOU know that they value it and won't abuse it!
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