I am a dark girl.
I am a survivor, as are many of my sisters of darker skin, of the plethora of ignorant comments and gestures that have been made over my lifetime from strangers, boyfriends and even family.
“You’re pretty to be so black.”
“Wow! I’ve never seen a pretty dark girl before.”
The list goes on . . . but as I sat in awe watching the tears roll down the faces of my wounded sisters in the documentary, "Dark Girls," I sat and thought, “what does God say about all of this?
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. 15 My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, 16 your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. Psalm 139: 14-16 NIV
So, if God created us to look the way we look, then the only logical and spiritual answer is that not only has the devil deceived a whole race, community and nation of people, by telling us the LIE that being dark skinned is ugly, undesirable and makes us not smart, but even worse, for generations, WE BELIEVED HIM!!! Generations of parents have taught their kids about colorism, so when is enough, enough? When are we going to boldly take our power back from the lies of the past? When? Now? Or in a few more generations?
After seeing the documentary, "Dark Girls" of gorgeous children and women who God gave dark skin, describe how they hated how they looked and would secretly wish they were shades lighter! I was moved, because that used to be me.
Not only did I struggle with accepting my size 6 body among my friends, size "0" frames, but I hated my skin color. I did everything I could to immolate what the world was portraying as beautiful. I got my first weave in high school and I started sporting hazel contacts, shortly after! I was a victim. A victim that believed the lie.
It wasn’t until I was 30 years old that I got sick and tired of being a victim. I got tired of jumping through hoops as the world's biggest PEOPLE-PLEASER! The journey began.
Many years and tears later, I am proud to say that I love my skin, I love my hair and I am grateful for the body I live in. I AM CHRISTY and I am a DARK GIRL! God never makes mistakes and today I finally believe that! It has been a journey, but I am grateful for it, because I have a beautiful DARK SKINNED daughter that I have the privilege of pouring love, life and truth into her heart, equipping her with the truth of who she is.
"What you say can preserve life or destroy it; so you must accept the consequences of your words." Proverbs 18:21(Good News Translation)
Unfortunately, there have been far too many who have destroyed lives because of the harsh, judgmental lies that they have spoken to women who were born with darker skin.
Although I am specifically talking about skin color, many of us have believed the lie that we aren’t good enough the way God made us, because we are too tall, too short, too light, too big, too skinny, our nose it too big, our hair is too curly, and the list goes on . . .
So . . . to all of my sisters, today I challenge you to dare to choose different thoughts and different words to describe yourself.
YOU ARE BEAUTIFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE! YOUR WORKS ARE WONDERFUL!
The power of your words can change the course of your life and the lives of others. So, as you begin to change the course of your life and the way you see yourself, please remember this . . .
- The power lives in your words! So please, only speak love about yourself and to others!
- You must to make the choice to fight with love for what matters to you most! Don't ever quit!
Today . . . is your new beginning! Let love have her way!
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged. It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. Love will last forever, but prophecy and speaking in unknown languages and special knowledge will all disappear. Now we know only a little, and even the gift of prophecy reveals little! But when the end comes, these special gifts will all disappear. It's like this: When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child does. But when I grew up, I put away childish things.Now we see things imperfectly as in a poor mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity. All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God knows me now. There are three things that will endure -- faith, hope, and love -- and the greatest of these is love.
1 Corinthians 13: 4-13 (New Living Translation)
Christy Little Jones, M.S. believes in love! She is a breakthrough mentor for women who long to encounter the love their soul craves! She is a marriage and family champion and proud to be God’s daughter! She is passionate about helping people encounter an amazing love by discovering who they were created to be! www.mrschristyjones.com