Remember Your FIRST LOVE!


I always love when February comes around because there often is a shift in the atmosphere.  People focus on serving, loving and forgiving. While society has highly commercialized and capitalized on Valentine’s Day, where people spend 11 billion dollars on Valentine’s Day! 

(I know, crazy, right?)

I still love the fact that people focus on loving during this month. I won’t mention that often after February 14th, many revert back to their old ways and go on as usual, because that’s not the point.  Hmmm…but maybe it should be.

Many people believe that love is a feeling. As a marriage coach and relationship mentor, I can’t begin to tell you how often I have heard the response to my question, “Why do you want to get married? And what makes you think you will stay married…til death do you part?” 9 times out of 10, the couple says because we LOVE each other and our LOVE for each other will most definitely keep us together. But then, 2 years, 10 years, 20+ years into their marriage, they can’t stand each other and are running to the divorce court.

It’s because they understand love to be a feeling! I get it. Unconditional love, all-consuming love, love that you don’t earn, just receive is hard to understand and often harder to explain. Since we can’t really explain THAT type of love, we have to downsize the concept of this type of love into something we understand, and that’s a feeling.

Stay with me…

Our first love gave us this unconditional, all-consuming, don’t have to do, prove or convince, just receive type of love to provide the standard and set the bar, so to speak of what LOVE looks like. And in our own logical minds, we have reduced the standard of love that He meant for us to experience, into something we comprehend and understand, which has resulted in experiencing counterfeit love.

Well, this Valentine’s Day, I want to encourage you, and even challenge you to RESET your LOVE BAR. I want to challenge you to reprogram your thoughts and beliefs about love.  Most of us have been given our definition of love from our parents, siblings, teachers or team coaches. And love has been defined for many of you as hurtful, angry, unreliable or untrustworthy, just to name a few. Then you adopted this idea of love, made it your definition and have journeyed through life with the definition of love being something that it’s NOT!

God created you because of His great LOVE for you! He loves you unconditionally, every piece of you and you don’t have to do anything to earn it, all you have to do is just receive it! I remember what life used to look like for me when I believed that LOVE was just a feeling. I was a chronic people-pleaser, perfectionist and overwhelmed myself all of the time with the pressure that comes from searching for love from people and circumstances that couldn’t give me what I was searching for.

Who do you know who wants to experience the type of love that tells you to stop beating yourself up when you yelled at your kids, because you were angry at your husband; that love that comforts you when your heart feels broken with disappointment because you can’t bear to be single…one more year. Or that love that keeps pouring out in spite of some of your choices that result in guilt, shame or failure.

If this is you, here is your LOVE challenge this week, as we head into Valentine’s Day.

1.       RESET your LOVE BAR by focusing on your first love. Spend time in the presence of God daily through worship.

2.       RENEW your relationship with God by sharing your heart with Him. Confess your regret and make the decision to start new behaviors and practices in your life immediately.

3.       REMEMBER the times when your heart was joyful. Where were you? What were you doing? Who were you with? It's time to get that back.

4.       REIGNITE your passion for what moves you! What is the one thing that makes you come alive? What should you be doing daily, that has been pushed to the back burner? 

5.       RESPOND with action! Be still and begin listening again to God’s voice for direction and guidance. Then, follow through!


Christy Little Jones is a motivational speaker, professional encourager and relationship mentor to women and couples all over the world.  She teaches people how to fall madly in love with themselves by establishing a relationship with God, making integrity based decisions and developing the courage to express themselves authentically. Connect with Christy at

Dear God...

I am completely overwhelmed today! I am jittery and anxious and at any moment, I feel like I am going to break out in a full blown . . . BAWL! A part of me is hoping that this is just hormonal and will go away in a few days, but the sacred side of me knows its real, because my brave self, the one that tells myself the truth, knows that I'm burned out! I'm spent! I'm wiped out. I'm done and can't keep up anymore. I feel like I've already failed and it's not even 8am, UGH!


As and over achiever, you know this is my normal practice, motivating myself, picking myself back up to put the pieces back together, but at what point do I look at my life and say, "the pieces are broken! ...this one is damaged! ...I need to let this one go! ...I can't put this one back with the others because it will damage all of the other "good" pieces?" . . . God?

Hmmm...I think this is that moment when peering into my soul and assesses the hard ware or should I say "soul ware" is necessary, right? A "soul-ware" assessment self-check? Okay, God, here I go.


  • negative sometimes
  • entertains FEAR too often
  • cluttered
  • always racing
  • always creating
  • needs a vacation


  • tired
  • tired
  • tired
  • needs an upgrade


  • defeated
  • disappointed
  • depleted
  • discouraged
  • frustrated

Wow, God! That is not a good report! I must admit, seeing this assessment makes me sad, because I know this is not how you want me to live. For the longest time, I have felt like I have been pushing a boulder up a steep hill and I am out of energy and out of effort!

I NO LONGER want to waste time on things that are not on YOUR agenda for my life! I am at the end of myself and I have nothing left.

God, . . . please forgive me for snatching my life out of your hands. I surrender it back to you TODAY and I give you back full access to my life. Do with it what you will! 

Forgive me for not trusting you. Please help me to let go of those things that I have been forcing and prioritize those things that align with what you have created me for. Thank you for always giving me second chances! I love you!




I LOVE this time of year . . . not only because we celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ, spend more concentrated time with family and friends and give to others in BIG ways, but also because it's an opportunity for a "DO OVER!"  Regardless of what the year was like, the first of the year is always an opportunity to press the RESET button!

It's a new opportunity to adjust the way you do things, see things and implement things in your life. Every holiday season, I always feel encouraged and inspired to get more organized, do a better job with my finances, practice better parenting skills and become a better wife!

But this year, I was desperate for something different! 2015 had many peaks and valleys, but as the end of the year approaches, I am tired and exhausted! I am tired of feeling like I am pushing a huge bolder up a steep hill! I NO LONGER have the energy to do anything beyond EXACTLY what God has divinely purposed and planned me to do!

As I began seeking God for what that specifically was, I just heard the words, ORDER and SURRENDER. Okay, I wasn't jumping up and down like I won the lottery when I heard those words, because I KNOW what order and surrender means . . .

letting go and relinquishing control!

UGH! But, I WAS grateful that I did hear God's response, so didn't resist, and I started asking more questions. I cannot keep doing things the same way, and you may be in the same boat! Ready for change, needing to realign...

I am clear there is something blocking God's flow of abundance, purpose and blessing in my life and if I were to guess what that block was, I would guess it was ME! I'm in the way! So, I am making the decision to move out of God's way in 2016 and letting God be God!

Over the last 8 months or so, I felt God leading me to become more intentional in the way I practiced LOVE! LOVE involves prayer, planning and practicing to become MORE like Him. So I started slowly implementing more love starting with my birthday in July.

Then, I heard recently one of the many things on the news that makes me shake my head in disappointment and thought quietly, "people need to get a life!" and I heard within, "a LOVE life!"

As I enter 2016 with focus and intention of getting out of God's way, I am kick starting my year with 31 DAILY LOVE HABITS! These are 31 simple and quick actionable steps . . . responses to God, that you too can incorporate into your daily life. Each love habit is designed to help you experience love in every area of your life!

At the end of 31 days, my heart is that you will have an encounter with LOVE that creates room for you to experience authentic love . . .

  • maybe for the first time
  • without expecting something in return
  • without limitation

With that being said, I would like to invite you to take this 31 day journey with me starting January 1st!

Here's all you need to get started:

  • Sign up by CLICKING HERE
  • Be open and willing to receive whatever comes
  • Give 100% of yourself to the process

THAT'S IT! Simple, right?

Yay!!! I am so glad you think so too! I am really excited about 2016 and what God has in store. See you on January 1st as we kick off
31 days of LOVE! 



Holiday Skin Care Gift Guide

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For as long as I can remember, people have complimented me on my skin! Most recently, one of my "besties", referred to me as "the skin care guru!"  She’s highlights my skin care regimen to everyone who needs a little more moisture, shine or sparkle in their skin care routine. She knows, I am a wellness junkie who loves my skin care products!

So, I thought, I would share my skin care regimen, step-by-step in addition to creating a Holiday Gift Guide for those who are looking for more sparkle and shine from their lips to their toes! The products I am about to share are products that I absolutely LOVE and personally just can’t live without. I use them daily and they, in conjunction with God's love make my skin glow!
One of my favorite "ME" times of day is when I get to pamper my skin! So lets dive right into my top picks.


GIFT IDEA #1 - A Perfect World Antioxidant Cleanser with White Tea.
STEP ONE: I use this cleanser by squeezing a small dollop onto my fingers, and rubbing in a small circular motion all over my face. It lathers well. Rinse and wipe with warm water. It feels great!

GIFT IDEA #2 - Origins A Perfect World™ Age-Defense Treatment Lotion with White Tea
STEP TWO: I place a few dabs of this product on a cotton pad and rub all over my face and fan my face quickly with my hands afterwards, for an extra cooling effect! Yass! . . . pamper!

GIFT IDEA #3 - Origins A Perfect World White Tea Skin Guardian
STEP THREE: This is one of my favorite products, not only because I know its purpose is to provide protection against unwanted wrinkles, but it gives me extra moisture and I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the way it smooths on my skin. Don't forget sisters to put it on your face and neck! Did I say I was 45? Yass! for my White Tea Guardian!

GIFT IDEA #4 - Origins A Perfect World™ SPF 25 Age-Defense Moisturizer with White Tea
STEP FOUR: Lastly, I put on my moisturizer for the day, now the key is to make sure that you have SPF in it.  I use SPF 25 even though I have awesome melonin, but who wants age spots at any shade? Nevertheless, just use it!


GIFT IDEA #5 - Clinique Take The Day Off Make Up Remover
I begin with this make-up remover to remove all excess makeup. I love this product because it's easy, inexpensive and it doesn't leave a cloudy film over my eyes after taking off my eye makeup. Yes! I use it all over!


GIFT IDEA #6 High-Potency Night-A-Mins™Mineral-enriched Renewal Cream   
I use this moisturizer because I like the way it feels and I love knowing that I am taking care of my skin while I am sleeping. Plus, I'm giving it the "renewal" vitamins it needs!

GIFT IDEA #7 Modern Friction™Nature's Gentle Dermabrasion
I only use this product TWICE a week on Wednesdays and Sundays during my bedtime routine! This helps to keep my skin looking vibrant, alive and it contributes to the glow and sparkle that I believe people notice most about my skin. I love this product because it's not grainy or too harsh and you won't find grains on your skin days later like some of the other products I've tried.  Put a little on your fingers with warm water, rub together, rub all over your face, add water as needed to get a good lather.  Remember to include your neck, and rinse several times using a wash cloth. VOILA!


GIFT IDEA #8 Laura Mercier Body and Bath - Creme de Pistache Body Scrub
Just like exfoliating your face, it's necessary to exfoliate your body to maintain the healthy glow, moisture and softness that keep your skin looking young, taught and bright! Although, my husband complains about my routine, he LOVES the benefit of cuddling next to soft, smooth skin!

GIFT IDEA #9 Philosophy - Amazing Grace Firming Body Emulsion Jumbo Limited Edition
Once I get out of the shower, I look forward to this next step! When I found this product, I was hooked for life! Not only is is a great value for the price, but the smell is ah-mazing and the name alone is perfect for pampering your body...Amazing Grace! *Christy's Personal Favorite

GIFT IDEA #10 Kenzo Amour By Kenzo Eau De Parfum Spray (Fuchsia Edition)
What woman doesn't love to smell amazing! Well, I have tried a ton of perfumes! I even worked for women's fragrances before in my 20's and I have never gotten more compliments than I have when I wear this fragrance. It comes in a fun, sleek, yet sexy bottle and it's affordable! This has become my staple.  I love it! It's simple, classy and fabulous.

Mary Lou's Weigh Platform

This is a scale that records your weight in 10 pound increments but never shows you numbers! For years, I measured my self-worth by the numbers on the scale. If they were higher than I thought they were supposed to be, I wasn't good enough.  This was a battle for decades! One of my clients introduced me to this wonderful tool that I wish I had years ago, when I started my self-love journey. I highly recommend adding this to your LOVE LIFE TOOL BOX.


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Posted on December 19, 2015 .


You are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, people who belong to God. You were chosen to tell about the excellent qualities of God, who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.
— 1 Peter 2:9 GW

This morning, I had a moment!

It was a moment where I looked outside of myself -- all emotion, logic and knowledge disappeared.  It was one of the few times where God's heavenly perspective flooded my human mind and showed forth His purpose and vision for my life in a very supernatural way!

I just sat still and took it all in.

In that moment, I was able to connect the dots of many major experiences in my life and see God's hand gently guiding, directing and holding me near.  The scary times, the happy times and all of the times in between, God showed me, that He was always there.

Flashes of people God brought into my heart and life began to flood my thoughts. The women, men and couples who called in the middle of the night desperate for comfort. The reminder that God showed up mightily EVERY SINGLE TIME in their lives and marriages replayed in my mind just like it did before.  I began reading emails, cards and letters that I received over the years from women celebrating businesses they never believed they could start and from married couples celebrating 2 years post-affair, announcing they are happier than ever!

Among a pool of tears and crumpled tissues everywhere, I was left with nothing . . . but gratitude.

Gratitude for the many lumps, bumps and bruises I have endured in my own life that God used to encourage, inspire and motivate others . . . to always keep fighting and never give up!

I am honored and humbled that God chose me to serve others in this way.

As we prepare for the celebration of the birth of Jesus in a few weeks, I am moved to ask for your support and partnership.  Will you consider supporting a married couple this holiday season by investing in their relationship?

God has given me a unique gift that creates space in people's lives making room for Him to bring breakthrough.

I am offering a special coaching package for married couples at a CRAZY DISCOUNTED RATE until December 15th! This package is for married couples that really need support in with communication, connection and re-establishing fun, friendship and intimacy in their relationship.

It's the perfect holiday gift and sends a pretty cool message of compassion, care and commitment to the couple!

 Here's all you need to do:

  1. Purchase the marriage coaching package for one couple at the SPECIAL HOLIDAY RATE $147 I am contributing $250 back into each couple as my investment and commitment to their marriage! (ONLY 10 packages available. Rate good thru 12/15/15)  CLICK HERE FOR DESCRIPTION. Purchases may be anonymous.
  2. After purchase, I will  reach out to the couple and inform them of the their holiday gift.
  3. We will schedule a convenient time for our 90 minute power session and they will each receive their digital downloads.

Look what's included in the Holiday Coaching Package for couples:

  • 90 minute Virtual Coaching Session for Couple

  • Marriage Medicine Rx Digital Program

  • 21 days to a Merrier Marriage Action Plan


You talk about a holiday gift that keeps on giving? There is nothing like it!

To purchase one of the 10 packages at the discounted rate before December 15th right now, click below. 


Thank you for gifting the greatest holiday gift ever . . . LEGACY!

Sending Love . . .

Connect with Christy:
Periscope: @aloveperfected
Facebook: @christylittlejones




You don’t have to be married to know that money–the lack of, obsession with or abundance of money can cause a fight in your relationship! Money, Sex and Communication statistically are among the top causes for separation and divorce in marriage.

So during holidays, the tendency to overspend can be a real issue for some married couples. I know . . . I have been guilty of wanting to "shop til I drop," and spend, spend, spend during the holidays!

Then, I get a grip and ask myself, " what's the real reason for the holidays, Christy?" The purpose is to give to others, spread joy and celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ, right?

Many couples go into the holiday season without communicating with each other about holiday spending intentions, without a plan or goal and end up overspending . . . BIGTIME! God is very clear in his Word. He tells us in Matthew 6:24 ERV, “You cannot serve two masters at the same time. You will hate one and love the other, or you will be loyal to one and not care about the other. You cannot serve God and Money at the same time.

God has created all of us to prosper, so please hear me. God isn’t saying that money is bad. It is the LOVE of money that He is addressing here. Money is a resource that provides access and opportunity. It can be a wonderful tool, but we need to understand what to look for, so that money doesn’t become our God, but instead is used for God.

Here are 5 MAJOR MONEY MISTAKES to look for in your marriage or relationship during the holidays . . . or any other day during the year.


When God brought you together in marriage, His purpose was for you to join as ONE–not only physically, but mentally, emotionally, spiritually and financially! So many times, husbands and wives decide to split bills down the middle and then keep the rest in their own accounts to use as they desire. This approach to finances in marriage is the complete opposite of joining together as ONE. In fact, this resembles more of a roommate situation and often breeds selfishness, separateness and division.

SOLUTION: How do you make the switch? Open a joint account where you deposit all funds. All bills are paid out of this account. Discuss and decide on a monthly stipend that each of you would receive to use in any way desired. This may be difficult at first, but overtime, you will develop closeness, mutual respect and trust.


Have you ever tried being successful, but had no idea what to do or how to do it because there wasn’t a clear, set goal? Many couples wing-it when it comes to their finances, parenting and even marriage. But God has created a strategy for everything under the sun. Your life was not designed to thrive apart from Him. God provides clear instructions in His Word. In Habbakkuk 2:2-6, God tells us to write the vision for the future.

SOLUTION: Schedule uninterrupted time with your spouse to pray and seek God regarding His vision for your finances. Write it down, put it up on your wall, meditate on it and confess it! Every decision should line up with this vision. God’s vision is your new goal. By developing an intimate relationship with God, you will be able to hear more clearly His detailed strategy for your finances along the way.


While many of us used to have a similar attitude when we were young, this approach to finances can be harmful to your marriage and family. Everything here on earth belongs to God. He calls us to be wise stewards over all that He owns, but has entrusted to us–which includes everything from your spouse, children, money and possessions. (Luke 16:10-12). Living carefree without a financial strategy may last for a moment, but in the long run will not work for your good. Prosperity comes with responsibility and maturity.

SOLUTION: Do you want to stop living check to check? Research and educate yourself about financial planning and budgeting. Recruit support from a trusted source and begin creating a budget this week! Here are some great sites to help you get started: DailyWorthGo Girl FinanceMs. Money


Often times, the way we experience money or even relate to it is something that we have learned from our parents. God wants us to prosper in all things and if we continue to keep Him first, we will. But we have to get through the junk and lies that have been programmed into our minds for years! This is not an easy thing to do! It takes a lot of intentional work, patience and practice to rid yourself of old ways and old thinking and allow God to renew your mind regarding money.

SOLUTION: Take a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle of it. Write down all of the lies that you believe about yourself and money on the left side with a red pen, then write the corresponding truth of God’s Word on the right side in a blue or black pen. Repeat and confess the side with God’s truth everyday and watch the Lord begin renewing your mind about money. Be sure to maintain obedience during the process.


Fear is a lie that has tricked many of us into sticking our head in the sand about finances or even worse, storing our money or hoarding it. Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real and one of the biggest reasons for not prospering in life. God says in His Word that He loves a cheerful giver, yet fear can keep you from giving. Fear makes you think that if you give monetarily, you won’t have what you need for yourself when you need it. It’s a trick from the enemy to steal, kill and destroy what God has for you. If the enemy can get you to be selfish and stingy, then he can keep you from prospering, ultimately turning your heart away from God.

SOLUTION: In Luke 6:38 ERV, God says, “Give to others, and you will receive. You will be given much. It will be poured into your hands-more than you can hold. You will be given so much that it will spill into your lap. The way you give to others is the way God will give to you.

So why is it sometimes so hard to let go? Face your fear toe-to-toe and put your trust in God everyday.

Give these 5 FINANCIAL SOLUTIONS a try and be patient with yourself and your spouse in the process. Making any significant change requires practice. So keep trusting, keep giving and watch God move!

“Image courtesy of Piggybank Surrounded In Coins Showing American Wealth” by Stuart Miles/”

You're pretty to be so black!

I am a dark girl.

I am a survivor, as are many of my sisters of darker skin, of the plethora of ignorant comments and gestures that have been made over my lifetime from strangers, boyfriends and even family.

You’re pretty to be so black.”

“Wow! I’ve never seen a pretty dark girl before.”

The list goes on . . . but as I sat in awe watching the tears roll down the faces of my wounded sisters in the documentary, "Dark Girls," I sat and thought, “what does God say about all of this?

14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. 15 My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, 16 your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.                                                  Psalm 139: 14-16 NIV

So, if God created us to look the way we look, then the only logical and spiritual answer is that not only has the devil deceived a whole race, community and nation of people, by telling us the LIE that being dark skinned is ugly, undesirable and makes us not smart, but even worse, for generations, WE BELIEVED HIM!!! Generations of parents have taught their kids about colorism, so when is enough, enough? When are we going to boldly take our power back from the lies of the past? When? Now? Or in a few more generations?

After seeing the documentary, "Dark Girls" of gorgeous children and women who God gave dark skin, describe how they hated how they looked and would secretly wish they were shades lighter! I was moved, because that used to be me.

Not only did I struggle with accepting my size 6 body among my friends, size "0" frames, but I hated my skin color. I did everything I could to immolate what the world was portraying as beautiful. I got my first weave in high school and I started sporting hazel contacts, shortly after! I was a victim. A victim that believed the lie.

It wasn’t until I was 30 years old that I got sick and tired of being a victim. I got tired of jumping through hoops as the world's biggest PEOPLE-PLEASER! The journey began.

Many years and tears later, I am proud to say that I love my skin, I love my hair and I am grateful for the body I live in. I AM CHRISTY and I am a DARK GIRL! God never makes mistakes and today I finally believe that! It has been a journey, but I am grateful for it, because I have a beautiful DARK SKINNED daughter that I have the privilege of pouring love, life and truth into her heart, equipping her with the truth of who she is.

"What you say can preserve life or destroy it; so you must accept the consequences of your words."  Proverbs 18:21(Good News Translation)

 Unfortunately,  there have been far too many who have destroyed lives because of the harsh, judgmental lies that they have spoken to women who were born with darker skin.

Although I am specifically talking about skin color, many of us have believed the lie that we aren’t good enough the way God made us, because we are too tall, too short, too light, too big, too skinny, our nose it too big, our hair is too curly, and the list goes on . . .

So . . . to all of my sisters, today I challenge you to dare to choose different thoughts and different words to describe yourself.


The power of your words can change the course of your life and the lives of others. So, as you begin to change the course of your life and the way you see yourself, please remember this . . .

  1. The power lives in your words! So please, only speak love about yourself and to others!
  2. You must to make the choice to fight with love for what matters to you most! Don't ever quit!

Today . . . is your new beginning! Let love have her way!

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged.  It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. Love will last forever, but prophecy and speaking in unknown languages and special knowledge will all disappear. Now we know only a little, and even the gift of prophecy reveals little! But when the end comes, these special gifts will all disappear. It's like this: When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child does. But when I grew up, I put away childish things.Now we see things imperfectly as in a poor mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity. All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God knows me now. There are three things that will endure -- faith, hope, and love -- and the greatest of these is love. 

1 Corinthians 13: 4-13 (New Living Translation)


Christy Little Jones, M.S. believes in love! She is a breakthrough mentor for women who long to encounter the love their soul craves! She is a marriage and family champion and proud to be God’s daughter! She is passionate about helping people encounter an amazing love by discovering who they were created to be!


Posted on October 2, 2015 .