You don’t have to be married to know that money–the lack of, obsession with or abundance of money can cause a fight in your relationship! Money, Sex and Communication statistically are among the top causes for separation and divorce in marriage.

So during holidays, the tendency to overspend can be a real issue for some married couples. I know . . . I have been guilty of wanting to "shop til I drop," and spend, spend, spend during the holidays!

Then, I get a grip and ask myself, " what's the real reason for the holidays, Christy?" The purpose is to give to others, spread joy and celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ, right?

Many couples go into the holiday season without communicating with each other about holiday spending intentions, without a plan or goal and end up overspending . . . BIGTIME! God is very clear in his Word. He tells us in Matthew 6:24 ERV, “You cannot serve two masters at the same time. You will hate one and love the other, or you will be loyal to one and not care about the other. You cannot serve God and Money at the same time.

God has created all of us to prosper, so please hear me. God isn’t saying that money is bad. It is the LOVE of money that He is addressing here. Money is a resource that provides access and opportunity. It can be a wonderful tool, but we need to understand what to look for, so that money doesn’t become our God, but instead is used for God.

Here are 5 MAJOR MONEY MISTAKES to look for in your marriage or relationship during the holidays . . . or any other day during the year.


When God brought you together in marriage, His purpose was for you to join as ONE–not only physically, but mentally, emotionally, spiritually and financially! So many times, husbands and wives decide to split bills down the middle and then keep the rest in their own accounts to use as they desire. This approach to finances in marriage is the complete opposite of joining together as ONE. In fact, this resembles more of a roommate situation and often breeds selfishness, separateness and division.

SOLUTION: How do you make the switch? Open a joint account where you deposit all funds. All bills are paid out of this account. Discuss and decide on a monthly stipend that each of you would receive to use in any way desired. This may be difficult at first, but overtime, you will develop closeness, mutual respect and trust.


Have you ever tried being successful, but had no idea what to do or how to do it because there wasn’t a clear, set goal? Many couples wing-it when it comes to their finances, parenting and even marriage. But God has created a strategy for everything under the sun. Your life was not designed to thrive apart from Him. God provides clear instructions in His Word. In Habbakkuk 2:2-6, God tells us to write the vision for the future.

SOLUTION: Schedule uninterrupted time with your spouse to pray and seek God regarding His vision for your finances. Write it down, put it up on your wall, meditate on it and confess it! Every decision should line up with this vision. God’s vision is your new goal. By developing an intimate relationship with God, you will be able to hear more clearly His detailed strategy for your finances along the way.


While many of us used to have a similar attitude when we were young, this approach to finances can be harmful to your marriage and family. Everything here on earth belongs to God. He calls us to be wise stewards over all that He owns, but has entrusted to us–which includes everything from your spouse, children, money and possessions. (Luke 16:10-12). Living carefree without a financial strategy may last for a moment, but in the long run will not work for your good. Prosperity comes with responsibility and maturity.

SOLUTION: Do you want to stop living check to check? Research and educate yourself about financial planning and budgeting. Recruit support from a trusted source and begin creating a budget this week! Here are some great sites to help you get started: DailyWorthGo Girl FinanceMs. Money


Often times, the way we experience money or even relate to it is something that we have learned from our parents. God wants us to prosper in all things and if we continue to keep Him first, we will. But we have to get through the junk and lies that have been programmed into our minds for years! This is not an easy thing to do! It takes a lot of intentional work, patience and practice to rid yourself of old ways and old thinking and allow God to renew your mind regarding money.

SOLUTION: Take a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle of it. Write down all of the lies that you believe about yourself and money on the left side with a red pen, then write the corresponding truth of God’s Word on the right side in a blue or black pen. Repeat and confess the side with God’s truth everyday and watch the Lord begin renewing your mind about money. Be sure to maintain obedience during the process.


Fear is a lie that has tricked many of us into sticking our head in the sand about finances or even worse, storing our money or hoarding it. Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real and one of the biggest reasons for not prospering in life. God says in His Word that He loves a cheerful giver, yet fear can keep you from giving. Fear makes you think that if you give monetarily, you won’t have what you need for yourself when you need it. It’s a trick from the enemy to steal, kill and destroy what God has for you. If the enemy can get you to be selfish and stingy, then he can keep you from prospering, ultimately turning your heart away from God.

SOLUTION: In Luke 6:38 ERV, God says, “Give to others, and you will receive. You will be given much. It will be poured into your hands-more than you can hold. You will be given so much that it will spill into your lap. The way you give to others is the way God will give to you.

So why is it sometimes so hard to let go? Face your fear toe-to-toe and put your trust in God everyday.

Give these 5 FINANCIAL SOLUTIONS a try and be patient with yourself and your spouse in the process. Making any significant change requires practice. So keep trusting, keep giving and watch God move!

“Image courtesy of Piggybank Surrounded In Coins Showing American Wealth” by Stuart Miles/ FreeDigitalPhotos.net”

You're pretty to be so black!

I am a dark girl.

I am a survivor, as are many of my sisters of darker skin, of the plethora of ignorant comments and gestures that have been made over my lifetime from strangers, boyfriends and even family.

You’re pretty to be so black.”

“Wow! I’ve never seen a pretty dark girl before.”

The list goes on . . . but as I sat in awe watching the tears roll down the faces of my wounded sisters in the documentary, "Dark Girls," I sat and thought, “what does God say about all of this?

14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. 15 My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, 16 your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.                                                  Psalm 139: 14-16 NIV

So, if God created us to look the way we look, then the only logical and spiritual answer is that not only has the devil deceived a whole race, community and nation of people, by telling us the LIE that being dark skinned is ugly, undesirable and makes us not smart, but even worse, for generations, WE BELIEVED HIM!!! Generations of parents have taught their kids about colorism, so when is enough, enough? When are we going to boldly take our power back from the lies of the past? When? Now? Or in a few more generations?

After seeing the documentary, "Dark Girls" of gorgeous children and women who God gave dark skin, describe how they hated how they looked and would secretly wish they were shades lighter! I was moved, because that used to be me.

Not only did I struggle with accepting my size 6 body among my friends, size "0" frames, but I hated my skin color. I did everything I could to immolate what the world was portraying as beautiful. I got my first weave in high school and I started sporting hazel contacts, shortly after! I was a victim. A victim that believed the lie.

It wasn’t until I was 30 years old that I got sick and tired of being a victim. I got tired of jumping through hoops as the world's biggest PEOPLE-PLEASER! The journey began.

Many years and tears later, I am proud to say that I love my skin, I love my hair and I am grateful for the body I live in. I AM CHRISTY and I am a DARK GIRL! God never makes mistakes and today I finally believe that! It has been a journey, but I am grateful for it, because I have a beautiful DARK SKINNED daughter that I have the privilege of pouring love, life and truth into her heart, equipping her with the truth of who she is.

"What you say can preserve life or destroy it; so you must accept the consequences of your words."  Proverbs 18:21(Good News Translation)

 Unfortunately,  there have been far too many who have destroyed lives because of the harsh, judgmental lies that they have spoken to women who were born with darker skin.

Although I am specifically talking about skin color, many of us have believed the lie that we aren’t good enough the way God made us, because we are too tall, too short, too light, too big, too skinny, our nose it too big, our hair is too curly, and the list goes on . . .

So . . . to all of my sisters, today I challenge you to dare to choose different thoughts and different words to describe yourself.


The power of your words can change the course of your life and the lives of others. So, as you begin to change the course of your life and the way you see yourself, please remember this . . .

  1. The power lives in your words! So please, only speak love about yourself and to others!
  2. You must to make the choice to fight with love for what matters to you most! Don't ever quit!

Today . . . is your new beginning! Let love have her way!

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged.  It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. Love will last forever, but prophecy and speaking in unknown languages and special knowledge will all disappear. Now we know only a little, and even the gift of prophecy reveals little! But when the end comes, these special gifts will all disappear. It's like this: When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child does. But when I grew up, I put away childish things.Now we see things imperfectly as in a poor mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity. All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God knows me now. There are three things that will endure -- faith, hope, and love -- and the greatest of these is love. 

1 Corinthians 13: 4-13 (New Living Translation)


Christy Little Jones, M.S. believes in love! She is a breakthrough mentor for women who long to encounter the love their soul craves! She is a marriage and family champion and proud to be God’s daughter! She is passionate about helping people encounter an amazing love by discovering who they were created to be! www.mrschristyjones.com


Posted on October 2, 2015 .