It took me years to grasp the concept that I was made in God's image, which meant that He made me to look like Him, love like Him, walk like Him, talk like Him, act like Him, think like Him and see like Him! Boy! Did I have a lot of work to do!

Eventhough God created us for Him, we often think this life we live is our own, to do with  whatever we please. Maybe for some...yes. But for Believers...the answer is NO! Your life is not your own. Your life is to glorify God 24/7! Pressure? Perhaps, but not if you open your eyes and see all that God is doing around you! 

Open your eyes to what God is saying.

Open your eyes to what God is doing.

Open your eyes to how God is leading. 

Open your eyes to how God is ordering your next steps. 

Open your eyes to God's handprint all around you. 


Don't question His plan, don't try to figure it out. Simply trust and believe Him with all your heart, take a deep breath and jump in...ALL IN!!!! 




Posted on February 23, 2017 .


HAPPY NEW YEAR! As we begin the new year with great expectation, I was reminded of this story and had to share.

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 cups of coffee . . .

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large, empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was. The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous "yes." The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the
entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

"Now," said the professor as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things - your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions - and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full." "The pebbles are the other things that matter, like your job, your house and your car and so on." "The sand is everything else - the small stuff. If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

"Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Spend time with your parents. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. Take time to get medical checkups. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the vacuum cleaner. Take care of the golf balls first - the things that really matter. Set your priorities... Life is not a dress rehearsal... The rest is just sand." One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked." "It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a cup of coffee with a friend." \


{Guest Blog} WHAT NOW, GOD?

There is the new app that l love.  Marco Polo.  It’s like snap chat for grown-ups.  I get to video message my friends and family without being a deer or a butterfly or a bumblebee.  And the messages don’t disappear in 24 hours. They are all saved in “the cloud” so I can go back and view them anytime.  

I’ll be honest, what I love MOST are the filters.  My favorite is pop art!  My eyes look AMAZING in pop art!  I often wish that the entire world saw me through that filter just for my eyes!

I was reminded today through a blog (Proverbs 31 Ministry) that I read that we often view our lives through the filter of our circumstances.   And… I realized that I need to change my filter.  

Truth – I am 42 and single and as I mentioned last week am chunkier than ever!  The life that I am living is not one I imagined for myself and as the holidays approach I can’t help but think  about what I thought this season in my life would look like.  

I pictured myself hanging little stockings by the chimney with care and snuggling with my babies in front of a roaring fire.  (Okay – I live in Phoenix… make that a fire place app on the Smart TV or please open the screen door… but you get the picture).    We would watch Frosty and Rudolph and OF COURSE Charlie Brown!  

Life is not even close to what I imagined.  And it’s really easy to get discouraged when you are rolling into what feels like holiday season number 692 STILL single.   It leads to questions… like “Why, God Why!?!?” and “When, God when!?!?”

But I was reminded today that it’s okay to ask God questions… we just have to make sure it’s the RIGHT question.  The question is not “why,” but “what.”

“This is my current reality, so what now?”  THAT question… is a total punch in the face.  It’s so easy to roll into a pity party with the Whys and Whens… But when I ask “What now?”  I have to make a choice.  An active choice.  I’m either going to choose to have a pity party and be sad.  Or I’m going to choose to figure out WHAT I should be doing in what feels like the never-ending season of Singleness.  

When I think about it, I can’t imagine someone saying, “Okay, Sara, you are 42 and single.   What now?”  and me responding, “Well, I plan to be really depressed and eat myself into oblivion.  Can you pass that tray of cupcakes and the box of tissues.”  WHO would say that?!?!

By asking WHAT instead of WHY, I take responsibility for my life, for my choices and my actions.  My choices are now premeditated and planned.   By asking WHAT, I am changing the filter through which I not only view, but govern my life.  

Is there something in your life that you don’t understand, that doesn’t make sense?  Is there some hurt or betrayal or loss that you haven’t been able to move beyond? Try changing the filter by asking WHAT NOW, God? instead of “Why, me?”

In case you are wondering, what my “What now” looks like this holiday season… it includes Christmas shopping for my favorite kids (my nieces and nephews),  snuggling on the couch with my Mommy on Christmas Eve, while watching our favorite Christmas movie and savoring every minute of the holiday season from start to finish.  


Sara Munyan is a cupcake connoisseur and strictly runs on coffee. She loves the sun, sand, and surf and shares her gift of teaching with 120 fourth graders in Arizona. With her infectious laugh, Sara's humor and real-world view of singlehood will have you grabbing your side and wiping your tears as you experience her wonderful charm.

{GUEST BLOG} A Single Girl’s Guide to Surviving the Holiday Season

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I love the Christmas season and ALL that it entails… The scarves, the mittens and hats… the sparkly dresses… the cookies… the cakes… the extra weight that I gain.

Wait! Strike that last one.  I do not, I repeat DO NOT love the weight gain.  And this year…feels harder than ever.  I’ve gained roughly 20 pounds in the last 18 months.  My 90-year-old aunt delights in telling me that I have never looked fatter – which she oddly thinks is a compliment.  Trying to figure out what to wear that feels fun and festive AND looks good leaves me wanting to curl up on the couch in my PJs. 

It’s hard enough being 40 something and single…add chunky to the mix and you might as well add a few cats too.  I was feeling a little down and Alanis Morrisette-y when I randomly remembered the Message.  The Message of the Man Boobs. 

Man Boobs (as I’m sure you are aware) are a very odd place to garner wisdom and confidence… but wisdom and confidence are what I found. 

Several years ago, I was sitting in my office gazing out the window when a man caught my eye.  I can't remember what I noticed first:  his thick legs, slightly chunky hiney or... his man boobs.  He wasn't large and in charge but he was definitely ... thick!    I see men of all shapes and sizes on a daily basis.  Very few cause me to take a double look... but this guy... had my attention because even with the butt and the boobs... he had swag! 

 I sat and watched him walk down the street with complete confidence and found myself drawn to him because of it!   His confidence overrode all of the “flaws” that I noticed at first.  The truth is that I only saw them for a second.  His confidence was attractive... alluring even.  Truth be told, I even thought about giving his little man boob a squeeze.

For years I have read the articles about confidence being one of the most attractive qualities an individual can possess but it wasn't until I saw the man boobs with swag that I understood it! 

Confidence is the magic ingredient that makes the ordinary... extraordinary! So this holiday season, if you wear nothing else, wear your confidence and wear it well and if your 90-year-old aunt tells you that you’ve never been fatter, smile and say “Thank you!”

Sara Munyan is a cupcake connoisseur and strictly runs on coffee. She loves the sun, sand, and surf and shares her gift of teaching with 120 fourth graders in Arizona. With her infectious laugh, Sara's humor and real-world view of singlehood will have you grabbing your side and wiping your tears as you experience her wonderful charm.


The past few weeks, I have heard and witnessed many significant "WON'T HE DO IT!" moments! Let me explain, a "won't HE do it" moment is when God shows up in your life unexpectedly without warning or notice; but with a whole lot of POWER, LOVE and CERTAINTY . . . gently reminding YOU that HE is in total control!

We may think we are controlling our life, and in some ways, yes, we have free will to choose, however, those who are willing to trust God with their life, their fears, their worries, their situations and circumstances, God has something for ya!

A few weeks ago, one of my Godsisters shared a "won't He do it" moment where God provided all of the training she needed to be certified . . . FOR FREE! Another Godsister shared how God brought back together two people who were once engaged, broke it off, married other people, got divorced and a few weeks ago after years of not communicating, got married!


This week after feeling like I was in a spiritual and mental fog, I kept forgetting things, losing my train of thought and feeling like a deer in headlights! All I could do was REST. Nothing extra, nothing more, all I did was just, "BE!"

Yesterday, I saw a few random letters on my dresser face down, one was junk mail and one from Blue Cross Blue Shield.  I thought, "that's weird, I haven't been with Blue Cross, Blue Shield in years." So, I opened the junk mail first and then opened the Blue Cross letter. There was a $1200 insurance refund check in it issued 3 months ago! "WON'T HE DO IT!"

I shook my head, praised God and thanked Him for always coming right on time!

God is in complete control of your life! He is just waiting for you to trust him completely and get out of His way, so HE CAN DO IT!

Please share YOUR "Won't He Do It!" moment below in the comments!



Trust in the Lord with all of your heart and lean not to your own understanding. Acknowledge Him in ALL your ways and He will make your paths straight.
— Proverbs 3:5

This election may surprise everybody else . . . but not God! I believe Tuesday's election is a total set up from God for the body of Christ.  God has been working in and through His sons and daughters for centuries. He desires us to trust Him above all else, by gently moving us out of our own way, so that we can truly start learning how to rest and receive - letting God be God. For so many of us, we believe the old saying,"it takes a lot of hard work to be successful, or the harder we work, the more successful we are." Actually, I think we may have gotten it backwards.

God doesn't need our help to carry out the visions, desires and dreams He has placed on the inside of us. He doesn't need us to take the initiative, overachieve or forcefully make our dreams come true. We have been spinning our wheels, scratching our heads and wondering, how did I get here? Why? Because we want to know the plan, and we want God's Promises to fit into our schedule, routine, and daily to-do list!

Tuesday was just a small reminder of how uncomfortable it is for us as a nation to be blindsided, unprepared and totally caught off guard, even after experts ran the numbers, entered the data and predicted the outcome. Guess what? We are not in control . . . God is!

The last few years has taken us out of our comfort zone and forced us to look at ourselves honestly, truthfully and with humility. We are nowhere near as mature as we think we are. We smile in people's faces and talk about them behind their backs, we judge people for their courage and boldness, as we continue to hide behind the mask of fear. And we ignore what is really going on, because we really don't 'feel' like taking ownership or responsibility to bring change, because we have too much on our own plates and it's so much easier to just complain.

We are the body of Christ and we are not ONE! We don't know who we are in Christ because we don't know who God is. Being a Christian isn't a fashion trend, it is an inheritance. God has given us an assignment and He has given us chance after chance to see Him in the details of our lives. . . and we have totally missed it! We ignored the clues and avoided 'the call' for as long as we could.

We pushed the envelope and now the time has come. It's GAME TIME and it's time to suit up!

We can't "fake it" anymore. We have no more time outs! It's time to accept your inheritance, rise into your calling and take responsibility for what you have been assigned to do! No more procrastinating and no more making excuses! This is the season that God has appointed you to walk in your purpose!

The nation needs you!

It's time to come together, respect one another and be the change you want to see in the world. The nation is depending on you to show them what faith is, demonstrate what love feels like, show them how to forgive and be the leader you know how to be!

Ready? . . . BREAK!





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He is on a mission! #operationoneness

I know things have been tough and you may have even contemplated throwing in the towel, but I wanted to encourage you to . . . HOLD THE LINE!


God is coming and HE IS THE CALVARY!

Marriage is God's idea. He created it so that we could experience love, intimacy, friendship, unity, and life's deepest joys. Which is why it is also fiercely opposed by the enemy. Satan's primary goal is to steal, kill, and destroy every aspect of your life--especially your marriage. 

But our Lord is a mighty warrior! There is a war between the Kingdom of God and the Kingdom of Darkness. This battle rages most ferociously in marriage because you, your spouse and your family have a specific purpose to advance God's Kingdom and bring Him glory!

So in order to engage in this battle, you need to be equipped! Some of you have laid down your swords and stopped fighting. Some have fallen on the battlefield wounded and hurt and some keep trying to stay in the fight, but are so weary, your efforts are faint and faithless.

Don't despair, things are about to turn around!

Faith is the confidence that what we hope for will actually happen; it gives us assurance about things we cannot see.
— Hebrews 11:1

When we are discouraged, disappointed or in despair, it's usually because our faith is faint! Be encouraged! As a daughter or son of the Most High God, you have access to exactly what you need to experience the marriage relationship you desire . . . and the one God has prepared for you! How? By activating your FAITH . . . RELENTLESS FAITH!


. . . is the confidence

you must believe without a shadow of doubt

. . . that what we hope for

that whatever you desire in your marriage, your spouse or your situation

. . . will actually happen

that God CAN restore, increase, rescue, save, and heal . . .

. . . it gives us assurance about

by operating in the integrity of what you believe

. . . things we cannot see

completely surrender to and trust God fully! Faith is an action! Faith never quits!

Search your heart this week. What do you REALLY believe about God? about His Word? about your spouse? about your marriage? Does what you think, say and do align with what you believe in your heart? If not, decide to change it! Align with God's Word. Start activating your faith for what you REALLY believe and watch God move in your marriage BIG TIME!!



I grew up in beautiful, sunny Santa Barbara, California, one mile away from the beach, within walking distance to the Santa Barbara Mission. I could not have asked for a more beautiful place to live. I was popular, I had amazing friends and loved my school. There was only one thing wrong. I didn't love MYSELF! I grew up as the "token" Black girl rocking size 8 jeans among my beautiful blonde and brunette friends who made every effort to let me know that they wore a size 0. 

I always felt like the "big girl" of the group and my self-esteem began to spiral before it even had a chance to start! Dieting was the topic of all of our conversations. Before I knew it, I started to believe that I was fat and ugly. I was barely 14 when I had asked my best friend how she stayed so skinny. She took me into her bathroom and showed me how to make myself throw up! She said that she eats whatever she wants and throws it up afterwards, so that the calories don't stay in her body!

I believed her. For the next year, I tried my hardest to be like my friends . . . skinny. I tried her system of binging and purging, because I wanted so desperately to be a size 0. The harder I tried, the more I felt like a failure. 

I remember getting on the scale and being so excited because I was at an all time low . . . 121 pounds! I thought I looked great! I was jolted quickly back into reality when a someone told me that I would "really" look great, if I lost 10 more pounds! 

Devastation took over and I was no longer the same. I struggled for many years after that moment by comparing myself to other women and longing to look like someone I could never be. 

It wasn't until I turned 30 that I intentionally started the journey of loving myself. Only 4% of women worldwide think they are beautiful according to a study conducted by Dove. Too many women are less than happy with their appearance and spend countless hours comparing themselves to someone they are not supposed to be. 

Seventy-five percent of women look in the mirror and do not like what they see. We are bombarded with images of beautiful women in magazines, on television and in the movies, but we never think about the team of people it took to get them looking that way. 

So today, I want to challenge you to CHOOSE to love yourself from head to toe, regardless of how you feel in your skin right now, and despite the 20 pounds that you have been trying to loose . . . forever. Be intentional! Stop comparing yourself to others. It's time to discover your beauty . . . deep within. Embrace your unique shape, color and size. There is no one in the world that is made like you! You are one of a kind! God spared no expense at creating you just as you are! Celebrate today! You are wonderfully and marvelously made!

Posted on October 21, 2016 .


The definition of DECISION is
: the ability to make choices quickly and confidently

Why do so many people hesitate to make even the simplest of decisions like what to order at a restaurant or even which movie to see at the theater? In today's culture, we are faced with so many choices, it leaves many of us overwhelmed, overworked and numb. Choices tend to make people anxious and make some feel like they are closing the door to other possibilities and opportunities.

Good decision-making is a skill that can be learned. And once it's learned and practiced, making decisions can bring the peace of mind and comfort that we're looking for. So, here are some quick tips that will help you to stop stalling and turn procrastination into positive action!

1. YOU CAN'T HAVE EVERYTHING! Think about it . . . you can't get married and then still live the single life! Choices are necessary! The better you get at making decisions, the more confident you will become and the less anxiety you will feel. Keep practicing!

2. STOP OVERTHINKING YOUR DECISION! The worst feeling is to buy a plane ticket and find the same flight 30 minutes later for $300 less! STOP LOOKING! Trust yourself, make the decision and move on!

3. DON'T DELAY IN YOUR DECISION-MAKING - unless you need more information to make the decision, you are giving your power away to the fear of making a choice! When you hand over your power, you lose control of the situation and it's over! DONE DEAL!

4. TRUST WITHIN and DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP! - Sometimes things just don't go as planned. Oh well! You made the best decision at the time you made it! You can't always take responsibility for the outcome, your job was just to decide.c The beauty of it all is, if things don't work out . . . you have the opportunity to make a different decision!


Six Weeks

Healed Heart

Love Received

Purpose Revealed

Promise Given . . . WHAT IS THERE TO DECIDE?




Have you ever wondered what it would feel like to let go of all of of your personal pressure, cares, and concerns? All of them?

Have you ever had that feeling when you GO-GO-GO so hard to meet a goal, fulfill a desire, live a passion, or finally experience your dream? But, as you forge ahead and keep pushing day after day and year after year, the goal, desire, passion or dream never seems to come. . .  it feels like a never-ending uphill battle! 

And then, one day . . .

In only a flicker of a moment, you imagine letting everything go . . . in your mind, your body and your soul.  And for 30 seconds, your conscious wanders thinking of how free you would be letting it all go! "Should I cut bait and roll out? Start over or just give up and forget about it all?" "What would happen if I stopped climbing? What would happen if I stopped everything and let it all go? Would anyone care? Would it even matter?

The answer is, Yes! It would matter.

God has given each one of us a grand purpose to be fulfilled and carried out here on earth until our last breath. So, why do we think our amazing gifts and the responsibility to use them should come easy? I could get super-spiritual and say, "it is easy!" But then, real talk . . . if you don't KNOW what your gifts are, or don't even have a clue about your purpose, then you won't realize there is a responsibility to use them, share them and give them to as many people as you can.  

It is only when we spend time being still and listening to our soul's whispers and following through with them, that a whole new understanding of who you are emerges.

There are many distractions pulling at you from all different directions, trying to steal your attention and take you out of the game, but you must stay alert! As a star player, it is critical that you pay attention to each "play" you're given during practice. Take good notes and study them long and hard, so that when it's "game time," and God calls your number, you are truly prepared and ready to go!