TRAINING FOR WHAT'S NEXT!

Yesterday, at the gym, I was in my zone. I was listening to my pump-me-up music when my thoughts took me back to my first marathon.  I started training 6 months before the race.  My coach had won the Marine Corp Marathon the year before in the women's division for her age. If I was going to do this and do this well, I wanted to be trained by the best. Not only did she schedule long runs on Saturdays, but we had track training on Tuesdays and Thursdays during the HOT Washington D.C. Summer!

I remember the pain of our track workouts. The nausea that came after sprinting and jogging, lap after lap. On our long Saturday runs, I remember what it felt like to be at mile 21 knowing that I had 2 more miles to go before my training was finished for the day. UGH! The blisters, sore muscles and aching bones. It was almost too much to bear...

Finally...it was race day. I was as prepared as I was going to be. I had my family and closest friends near by to cheer me along the way, I had my energy packs and water for fuel and I was ready...it was game time!  The butterflies in my stomach were in place, as I was about to embark on something that I had never done before. With a chill in the air, standing in a crowd of hundreds, the gun went off...BANG!

What has God been training YOU for?

Nothing you do is every wasted! However, you can't stay in training mode forever! It's time to stop procrastinating and start pursuing! It's GAME TIME! In order to activate your faith, you have to JUMP! 

Here are a few of my favorite tips designed to get you RACE READY!

1. MAKE THE DECISION! Go for it!! When you only commit 99%, distractions and delays take you off course and delay you from receiving your win. When you commit to your decision 100%, your heart, mind, soul and body all align and agree to work together to get you the results! What are you waiting for?  . . . GREATNESS is waiting on you!

2. Get a COACH! A coach is designed to stretch you to reach your capacity quicker! We all need accountability and support to help us achieve our specific goals. Don't be afraid to ask for what you need. Success cannot always be achieved alone. There is more power in team!

3. DON'T FIGHT THE PROCESS! The aches, pains and agony of achieving your goals and dreams are all part of the process. You cannot circumvent them, so you might as well get your ice packs, Biofreeze and massage therapist ready!

4. BUTTERFLIES ARE A GOOD SIGN! New challenges can be scary, but REMEMBER YOU WERE BORN TO DO THIS OR ELSE THE DESIRE WOULDN'T BE WITHIN YOU. YOU'VE GOT THIS!

5. RECRUIT YOUR FRONT ROW!! Get clear on the kind of support you need, and the people you want along for the journey. Everyone cannot take this journey with you! Be selective and only invite people along for the ride, who you are confident have your back!

6. FUEL YOURSELF DAILY! Spend time with God, read the bible, journal, meditate, listen to an inspirational message or music. Fuel yourself properly for the journey ahead. It is mandatory to maintain strength and endurance.

 7. PREPARE, PREPARE, PREPARE! Don't wait to get ready the day of the race. Get prepared NOW! . . . So when the gun goes off, you're READY TO RUN FULL SPEED!

SOMETIMES...BEING MARRIED GETS ON MY NERVES!

Marriage is God's idea and anything that God says is good, there is always an enemy lurking, plotting, planning and scheming to steal it...kill it...divide it and destroy it! This week, the enemy was deep in my camp, trying to steal my joy, my peace and my tolerance!

After 15 years of marriage and 13 years working with couples, I have come to know a few things as true. One, marriage is good...why? because everything God made is good. Two, marriage has seasons where it's hard, complicated and unnecessarily messy because of the ENEMY in our camp.

What a week! Have you ever had one of those weeks when...the dryer broke, work was way too overwhelming, your kids were acting up and you and your spouse were constantly arguing over stupid stuff? Yes! One of those weeks where running away to a tropical island...for the rest of the year...sounded really good!

Marriage is wonderful and I love being married, but sometimes...being married REALLY gets on my nerves! I have a  list of things I love about being married -- I LOVE when Adrian holds me at night when I'm cold and I can't seem to get warm. I love knowing that he is thinking about me throughout the day. And I love having a partner to fight life's battles with and celebrate life's victories.

But, what really gets on my nerves about being married is...having to apologize when I'm not wrong! Having to sacrifice "anything and everything," when I really don't feel like it and then having sex when the last thing I want him to do is touch me! But, the real reason that being married sometimes gets on my nerves is because...

I CAN'T BE SELFISH!!!!!

Some of you may say, "well, why can't you be selfish? Why do YOU have to give up what you want? You don't have to apologize, when it's not your fault. You don't have to sacrifice, he needs to sacrifice, he's the man! And, if you don't feel like having sex . . . then, don't!"

Well, I wish it was that easy, but...

When you don’t understand the purpose of something, abuse is inevitable.
— Dr. Myles Monroe

Marriage was created as God's system to develop intimacy with Him, eliminate selfishness, practice sacrifice and discover yourself at the core! Couples who get married without fully understanding God's purpose for marriage are in some ways "set up" to fail, because they think marriage is all about fulfilling their own needs, desires and wishes. They think marriage should always make THEM happy without any sacrifice or discomfort on their part! When in reality, marriage is the roller coaster ride of their lives, and unfortunately all too often, that ride ends up in the divorce courts! The lack of understanding regarding the purpose of marriage is one of the preliminary strategies from the enemy to destroy the joy, peace and prosperity God designed marriage to be.

There are so many things that happen along the journey of marriage that to thrive, you must become aware that...

1. There is an enemy in your camp seeking to steal, kill and destroy your marriage. You can't afford to throw in the towel before the fight is over. Your legacy depends on you winning the battle!

2. Offense is fuel for the enemy to keep you away from joy, peace, prosperity and happily ever after! Don't fall for the okey-doke! Reconcile quickly and don't hold grudges.

3. Everything that happens in your marriage is designed to build, strengthen and fortify the bond between you, your spouse and God. Don't miss these opportunities to connect on a deeper level.

4. Self-ish is a 4-letter word and should NOT be applied...if you want to experience the true purpose of marriage and all of its benefits.

5. Recognize the enemy's strategies in your marriage and when he shows up, you'll be ready for war!

6. Train for battle by pursuing God daily. Spend time in worship, prayer, meditation and bible study. Always apply what you learn!

MARRIAGE TAKES WORK!!!! A LOT OF WORK!! You will have to do a ton of things that you don't want to do and don't feel like doing, but...in the end...the "WORK" will be worth it!

There are times when I would rather not apologize and be right or sometimes I wish I could pout and have a tantrum because I didn't get my way; but I am certain that every time I put my feelings aside and choose PERFECT LOVE, WE ALWAYS WIN!!!

I love my husband and I love being married! He increases my capacity to love...on the regular. LOL! I will continue to learn, grow and sacrifice in my marriage and there may be days ahead that Adrian will get on my nerves; but I am so grateful that I serve an awesome God who provides, protects and positions me to be loved by a man who loves me perfectly...til' death do us part!

The Journey of an Entrepreneur

In 1999, I entered into the world of entrepreneurship for the first time. Little did I know what I was really in for. 

As a recent Master's degree graduate, I started on my quest to change lives and impact the world in Health Care.  I was a health coach for specialty populations that included women, seniors and children.  I loved giving people hope and sharing the possibility of a better quality of life. Some grabbed on to faith and hope showed up and some stayed put, safe and comfortable with their fear. 

Then, almost seamlessly, my journey turned towards supporting mommies, by helping them understand the influence they have been given with their children. Through a Mommy in Training conference, and the labor of many people who believed in family, we shared the message of mommy privilege and the call on a mother's life to parent with love, guidance and intention. God showed up in ways that to this day, still make me say, "Wow!"

A few years later, my journey took another turn and I started working with couples preparing for marriage. I was positioned to help them know what to expect after, "I do!" We would share the good, the bad and the real deal about marriage, while preparing couples to withstand the storms.  To this day, many couples had no idea the storms could be so violent.

Then after being on my journey for a decade, God shifted my entrepreneurial path again to encourage married couples in crisis. I equip couples to fight for their marriage, by walking closely with them during times of heart brokenness, despair and great discouragement.

There have been many twists and turns, ups and downs, ins and outs in my journey and there are many things I have learned and grown from along the way.

I have learned that entrepreneurship is a long journey, it is a major process. It's often a vehicle used by God to show you your true identity. I have come to realize that not everyone understands or will understand YOUR personal journey, nor are they meant to. I have come to know that even your family and closest friends will doubt you, judge you and not support you. From the people I trusted the most, I experienced the most judgement. 

"You have your hands in too many things."

"I never know what you're doing."

"You're all over the place, you need to focus!"

"What now? Make up your mind."

Not only do I hear their judgement, but I feel the jab in my heart and soul, and it hurts; it stings. It makes me want to shut down and immediately revoke their VIP access card to my heart. But, somehow, I always still share, open up or trust them, even when they respond the same way over and over.

As a former people-pleaser, overcoming my response to the judgment from family and friends has been a steep climb along my journey, but it has made me stronger, wiser and keenly aware. I have learned to embrace my personal journey and stop needing validation for it.

While some people may judge it, critique it or criticize it, I am on my path; I am on my journey. I have realized that it tends to be very easy to criticize and judge while watching from the grass on the side of the road. But, it's not until you have walked along a similar road can you truly appreciate, respect and bear witness to another person's hills and valleys along their journey. Other entrepreneurs have given me great support, mutual respect, encouragement and insight. From many coaches along my journey, I have been poured into, stretched and held accountable to walking in my gifts, something never to be taken lightly. 

Many do not or can ever understand that the journey of an entrepreneur includes discovering your divine identity and peeling back the layers to reveal what's really at your core. The journey of an entrepreneur is a constant evolution, a process, a never ending commitment to always showing up at your best; giving 100% and going all out!

For those of you who have gotten tired, weary or discouraged along your journey, keep evolving, keep trying new things, keep taking new risks and keep saying YES! to new adventures. Keep walking through new doors of opportunity and keep climbing. Sometimes, the journey can be lonely, but remember you are never alone. Greatness is within you, so don't let others define how great you are.  And enjoy your journey, it is YOURS! It is only when you are moving forward, that you are moving closer to truly living as God created you to be! 

 

 

 

 

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20 THINGS I WISH I KNEW BEFORE," I DO!"

There are so many things I wish I knew about marriage when I was single, that I KNOW would have better prepared me for the journey. And marriage...is a major journey!

Like most little girls, I too, wanted to be discovered by my Prince, get married, have children and live happily ever after. And I believed in this concept wholeheartedly for decades until . . .

I got married.

The music stopped playing, I stopped twirling in my ball gown to Disney's, "Once Upon a Dream," and my crystal horse-drawn carriage took off charging into the forest! I came down from Fantasy Land and hit reality with a hard "T-H-U-D!" ... A Really Hard THUD!

I remember in my early 20's, being bright eyed and excited about the thought of getting married one day, and having a conversation with two women in their 40's about marriage. One laughed when I asked her, "what's the best thing was about marriage?" Her friend chimed in and said, "my advice is to make sure he loves you more than you love him." I was shocked by their responses! It made such an impression on me... I never forgot it.

While I was stunned by their counsel and advice, I didn't allow their obvious bitterness taint my perspective about marriage. I was still eager and excited about one day saying, "I DO."

There have been many ups and downs along my journey in marriage that remind me of the advice I had received from those veteran wives, and I remember on several occasions, saying out loud, "Ahhh! I see how bitterness could creep in, if you're not careful."

MARRIAGE IS NO JOKE and has definitely been a journey! And it's only been 14 years, which is a FAR cry from FOREVER! Yes, like many wives, I have been disappointed in more ways than one, but I have also experienced happiness like never before. But, what I have realized about life and marriage, is that it's all about CHOICES!

In my personal and professional experience, here is my "take" on what happens on the other side of, "I DO!" Because no one told me . . . or maybe they tried and I really just didn't want to hear it.

DISCLAIMER: for all the SINGLE WOMEN DESIRING TO GET MARRIED. This post will tell it like it is and may poke a small hole in your fantasy bubble. #divorceprevention  If you don't like hearing the TRUTH, abandon ship now and STOP READING HERE!

20 Things I wish I knew BEFORE, "I DO!"

1. YOU CANNOT CHANGE YOUR HUSBAND, NOR IS IT YOUR JOB TO! 

2. YOU WILL HAVE TO HAVE SEX WHEN YOU DON'T FEEL LIKE IT...IF YOU WANT TO HONOR GOD!

3. YOUR HUSBAND WILL TRY TO FIX EVERYTHING, EVEN WHEN YOU JUST WANT HIM TO LISTEN! NO NEED TO BE DRAMATIC, JUST ASK HIM TO LISTEN.

4. YOUR HUSBAND IS NOT A MIND READER, ONLY YOUR GIRLFRIEND IS!

5. YOUR HUSBAND WILL SHUT DOWN WHEN HE HAS NO CLUE WHAT TO DO OR SAY, HELP HIM OUT OF THE HEADLIGHTS AND JUST TELL HIM WHAT YOU WANT!  

6. YOUR HUSBAND MAY NOT KNOW HOW TO LEAD YOUR FAMILY, DON'T CRITICIZE OR JUDGE HIM, CREATE A SAFE PLACE FOR HIM TO LEARN AND BE SURE HE KNOWS YOU'VE GOT HIS BACK...NO MATTER WHAT! 

7. YOUR HUSBAND HAS NO CLUE THAT THE KEY TO CONNECTING PHYSICALLY WITH YOU IS TO CONNECT EMOTIONALLY WITH YOU FIRST! ALWAYS REWARD FOR GOOD BEHAVIOR!

8. YOUR HUSBAND THINKS IT'S TOO MUCH WORK TO PURSUE YOU LIKE HE DID BEFORE YOU WERE MARRIED. SOLUTION...GO TO BED NAKED! 

9. MAKE DATE NIGHTS A WEEKLY PRIORITY!

10. TOUGH TIMES ONLY LAST A SEASON! ENDURE!

11. DON'T SUFFER IN SILENCE! IT'S STUPID! ASK A COUPLE YOU TRUST TO HELP YOU THROUGH STICKY SITUATIONS! 

12. NEVER USE THE "D" WORD IN A HEATED ARGUMENT! NEVER! (D WORD = DIVORCE)

13. DON'T WASTE YOUR ENERGY GETTING ANGRY OVER THE SAME THING! JUST PUT A LINER BACK IN THE TRASH CAN.

14. YOUR SPOUSE WAS DESIGNED TO GROW YOU AND DEVELOP YOU INTO WHO GOD CREATED YOU TO BE! YEP! AND YOU WILL HAVE TO LEARN HOW TO LOVE HIM THROUGH NOT LIKING HIM VERY MUCH! LOL

15. MARRIED COUPLES ARE DESIGNED TO BECOME ONE. THAT MEANS SHARE E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G. 

16. INVITE GOD TO PARK AT THE CENTER OF YOUR MARRIAGE, SO YOUR EMOTIONS, OFFENSES AND FEELINGS DON'T RULE OVER YOU.

17. DON'T GIVE YOUR POWER AWAY TO FEAR! STAND IN FAITH!

18. COMMUNICATION 101. WOULD YOU RATHER BE RIGHT OR RECONCILED? CHOOSE RECONCILIATION. 

19. FORGIVING FIRST DOESN'T MEAN YOU'RE WEAK, SELFISHNESS DOES! 

20. DON'T RELY ON YOURSELF OR YOUR SPOUSE . . . ONLY RELY ON GOD!

Christy Little Jones is a Speaker, Relationship Coach and Professional Encourager to women and couples all over the world.  She teaches people how to fall madly in love with themselves, develop intimacy with God, live with integrity and love powerfully,  Connect with www.mrschristyjones.com

THE COMPARISON TRAP

When we compare ourselves to other women, what they look like, what they have, and their behavior, we are defeated from the start. We were created to be different and unique, there are no two people alike. God did this for a reason. It's called purpose. When we compare, we divide the very essence of who we are and all of our magnificence!

If you knew that every time you compared yourself to another woman, that you were dividing your purpose, your excellence and your soul would you still do it?

COMPARISON is

a. The act of comparing or the process of being compared.

b. A statement or estimate of similarities and differences.

c. The quality of being similar or equivalent; likeness

Let's take apples and bananas. Yes, they are both fruits, but they have very different shapes, colors, minerals, vitamins, and look vastly different. Well...so do we as women. We would never compare apples and bananas as having the same value. If you were to do some research, you would realize that apples and bananas are not only very different, they have a different purpose. Bananas are known to improve your mood and are great energy boosters for workouts. Apples have many antioxidants and are great for regulating blood sugar. Different, right? So are we. 

The next time you start comparing yourself to someone else, their life or circumstances, consider the apple and the banana. Reflect on the amazing and unique qualities that each possess and how different and special they are independent of the other.

Along with many other women, I have fallen into the trap of comparing myself to other women for most of my life. I lived a life of always trying to measure up to a standard that was always beneath the standard that God set for me when I was born. When I was younger, I'd often compare myself to women who were nothing like me! They had different skin, different body types and different genes, but I found my identity in the misery of pleasing people. I would abuse myself with negative words and thoughts, I adopted other people's beliefs and breathed in criticism as a part of life. It took decades before I realized how mean I had been to my heart, soul and body. When I reached a low point in my life, I woke up! I started my personal quest of truly discovering my true identity and who God created me to be!

It was a life-changing decision that transformed my life forever.

For the first time, I decided that I cared more about what I thought about me, than what other people thought about me. It was uncomfortable and made me feel even a little guilty, but I pressed through the discomfort and allowed God to heal my heart, renew my thinking and transform me! It was the best decision of my life!

If you knew that you would be set free from comparing yourself to others and start living with confidence, authenticity and acceptance, would you take the journey?

  

TRUTH! Can You Handle The Truth?

Today was one of those moments where I had a face-to-face moment with TRUTH! Yes...one of those...not so fun moments, but necessary. 

Instantly, I was reminded of one of my favorite 90's movies, "A Few Good Men," when Jack Nicholson says his famous line after being backed into a corner by Tom Cruise during his trial. "You want the truth? You can't handle the truth!"

Ouch! Oh boy...this is a loaded statement!

My "TRUTH" journey began about 15 years ago.  I started out with baby steps, because who really ever likes confronting the truth about themselves? Exactly! Where there in lies the problem.  Most people don't like hearing the TRUTH, much less can really handle the TRUTH!  In fact, they avoid it like the plague! As a relationship coach, I have seen it all...denial, delusion, avoidance, resistance, control, pride, low self-esteem, shrinking, people-pleasing, perfectionism and the list goes on...!

I want to get up close and personal with you today about the TRUTH! But...can you handle the truth?

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Everything we've learned about the truth we learned from the people we trusted most. We believed what they said, what they did and how they loved us as TRUTH!

Well, I hate to wreck havoc on your subconscious mind, but the truth that you have believed about yourself for years, is actually NOT THE TRUTH! 

"You're not good enough!"

"You're not pretty enough!"

"You're not smart enough!"

"You're not skinny enough!"

Please fill in the quotes, with the negative self-chatter that has taken residence in your heart, mind and beliefs.

When you were born, God embedded HIS TRUTH within your heart. Then layers of your negative experiences, lies you were told and believed, disappointment and discouragement corrupted God's truth and changed His Standard for your life!

So what was once His truth has transformed into FEAR!

Many of us live our lives with FEAR as the final authority over our decisions.  FEAR shrinks our greatness and keeps us lying to ourselves, so that we miss out on what God has planned.

Anywhere there is fear, there is NO TRUTH!

I have provided 3 quick tips that will help you recalibrate your heart back to TRUTH - Gods Truth. Go ahead and read them, study them and implement them into your life ASAP!

1. BE BRAVE! Confront the TRUTH of what's causing havoc in your life? What are you avoiding? What choices are you making or NOT making that keep you "stuck?"

2. MAKE A LIST! Identify areas of growth. Communication with your spouse? Self-Acceptance? Financial Planning? Spiritual Growth? Choose one area, set a goal and write down the action steps towards achieving that goal. Get started right away! 

3. DISCOVER YOUR PURPOSE! Myles Monroe said, "when you don't understand the purpose of a thing, abuse is inevitable!" Abuse occurs when you don't understand your value or worth. Study the TRUTH by studying His word and His Standards. Reset your standards immediately.

Christy Little Jones is a motivational speaker, professional encourager and relationship mentor to women and couples all over the world.  She teaches people how to fall madly in love with themselves by establishing a relationship with God, making integrity based decisions and developing the courage to express themselves authentically. Connect with Christy at www.mrschristyjones.com.

 

 

Remember Your FIRST LOVE!

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I always love when February comes around because there often is a shift in the atmosphere.  People focus on serving, loving and forgiving. While society has highly commercialized and capitalized on Valentine’s Day, where people spend 11 billion dollars on Valentine’s Day! 

(I know, crazy, right?)

I still love the fact that people focus on loving during this month. I won’t mention that often after February 14th, many revert back to their old ways and go on as usual, because that’s not the point.  Hmmm…but maybe it should be.

Many people believe that love is a feeling. As a marriage coach and relationship mentor, I can’t begin to tell you how often I have heard the response to my question, “Why do you want to get married? And what makes you think you will stay married…til death do you part?” 9 times out of 10, the couple says because we LOVE each other and our LOVE for each other will most definitely keep us together. But then, 2 years, 10 years, 20+ years into their marriage, they can’t stand each other and are running to the divorce court.

It’s because they understand love to be a feeling! I get it. Unconditional love, all-consuming love, love that you don’t earn, just receive is hard to understand and often harder to explain. Since we can’t really explain THAT type of love, we have to downsize the concept of this type of love into something we understand, and that’s a feeling.

Stay with me…

Our first love gave us this unconditional, all-consuming, don’t have to do, prove or convince, just receive type of love to provide the standard and set the bar, so to speak of what LOVE looks like. And in our own logical minds, we have reduced the standard of love that He meant for us to experience, into something we comprehend and understand, which has resulted in experiencing counterfeit love.

Well, this Valentine’s Day, I want to encourage you, and even challenge you to RESET your LOVE BAR. I want to challenge you to reprogram your thoughts and beliefs about love.  Most of us have been given our definition of love from our parents, siblings, teachers or team coaches. And love has been defined for many of you as hurtful, angry, unreliable or untrustworthy, just to name a few. Then you adopted this idea of love, made it your definition and have journeyed through life with the definition of love being something that it’s NOT!

God created you because of His great LOVE for you! He loves you unconditionally, every piece of you and you don’t have to do anything to earn it, all you have to do is just receive it! I remember what life used to look like for me when I believed that LOVE was just a feeling. I was a chronic people-pleaser, perfectionist and overwhelmed myself all of the time with the pressure that comes from searching for love from people and circumstances that couldn’t give me what I was searching for.

Who do you know who wants to experience the type of love that tells you to stop beating yourself up when you yelled at your kids, because you were angry at your husband; that love that comforts you when your heart feels broken with disappointment because you can’t bear to be single…one more year. Or that love that keeps pouring out in spite of some of your choices that result in guilt, shame or failure.

If this is you, here is your LOVE challenge this week, as we head into Valentine’s Day.

1.       RESET your LOVE BAR by focusing on your first love. Spend time in the presence of God daily through worship.

2.       RENEW your relationship with God by sharing your heart with Him. Confess your regret and make the decision to start new behaviors and practices in your life immediately.

3.       REMEMBER the times when your heart was joyful. Where were you? What were you doing? Who were you with? It's time to get that back.

4.       REIGNITE your passion for what moves you! What is the one thing that makes you come alive? What should you be doing daily, that has been pushed to the back burner? 

5.       RESPOND with action! Be still and begin listening again to God’s voice for direction and guidance. Then, follow through!

 

Christy Little Jones is a motivational speaker, professional encourager and relationship mentor to women and couples all over the world.  She teaches people how to fall madly in love with themselves by establishing a relationship with God, making integrity based decisions and developing the courage to express themselves authentically. Connect with Christy at www.mrschristyjones.com.

Dear God...

I am completely overwhelmed today! I am jittery and anxious and at any moment, I feel like I am going to break out in a full blown . . . BAWL! A part of me is hoping that this is just hormonal and will go away in a few days, but the sacred side of me knows its real, because my brave self, the one that tells myself the truth, knows that I'm burned out! I'm spent! I'm wiped out. I'm done and can't keep up anymore. I feel like I've already failed and it's not even 8am, UGH!

I immediately think to myself, "CHRISTY! CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS RIGHT NOW! CHANGE THAT ATTITUDE AND THAT MIND SET, YOUNG LADY! HUT! HUT! HUT!"

As and over achiever, you know this is my normal practice, motivating myself, picking myself back up to put the pieces back together, but at what point do I look at my life and say, "the pieces are broken! ...this one is damaged! ...I need to let this one go! ...I can't put this one back with the others because it will damage all of the other "good" pieces?" . . . God?

Hmmm...I think this is that moment when peering into my soul and assesses the hard ware or should I say "soul ware" is necessary, right? A "soul-ware" assessment self-check? Okay, God, here I go.

MIND: 

  • negative sometimes
  • entertains FEAR too often
  • cluttered
  • always racing
  • always creating
  • needs a vacation

BODY:

  • tired
  • tired
  • tired
  • needs an upgrade

SOUL:

  • defeated
  • disappointed
  • depleted
  • discouraged
  • frustrated

Wow, God! That is not a good report! I must admit, seeing this assessment makes me sad, because I know this is not how you want me to live. For the longest time, I have felt like I have been pushing a boulder up a steep hill and I am out of energy and out of effort!

I NO LONGER want to waste time on things that are not on YOUR agenda for my life! I am at the end of myself and I have nothing left.

God, . . . please forgive me for snatching my life out of your hands. I surrender it back to you TODAY and I give you back full access to my life. Do with it what you will! 

Forgive me for not trusting you. Please help me to let go of those things that I have been forcing and prioritize those things that align with what you have created me for. Thank you for always giving me second chances! I love you!

Christy

 

IT'S COUNTDOWN TIME!

I LOVE this time of year . . . not only because we celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ, spend more concentrated time with family and friends and give to others in BIG ways, but also because it's an opportunity for a "DO OVER!"  Regardless of what the year was like, the first of the year is always an opportunity to press the RESET button!

It's a new opportunity to adjust the way you do things, see things and implement things in your life. Every holiday season, I always feel encouraged and inspired to get more organized, do a better job with my finances, practice better parenting skills and become a better wife!

But this year, I was desperate for something different! 2015 had many peaks and valleys, but as the end of the year approaches, I am tired and exhausted! I am tired of feeling like I am pushing a huge bolder up a steep hill! I NO LONGER have the energy to do anything beyond EXACTLY what God has divinely purposed and planned me to do!

As I began seeking God for what that specifically was, I just heard the words, ORDER and SURRENDER. Okay, I wasn't jumping up and down like I won the lottery when I heard those words, because I KNOW what order and surrender means . . .

letting go and relinquishing control!

UGH! But, I WAS grateful that I did hear God's response, so didn't resist, and I started asking more questions. I cannot keep doing things the same way, and you may be in the same boat! Ready for change, needing to realign...

I am clear there is something blocking God's flow of abundance, purpose and blessing in my life and if I were to guess what that block was, I would guess it was ME! I'm in the way! So, I am making the decision to move out of God's way in 2016 and letting God be God!

Over the last 8 months or so, I felt God leading me to become more intentional in the way I practiced LOVE! LOVE involves prayer, planning and practicing to become MORE like Him. So I started slowly implementing more love starting with my birthday in July.

Then, I heard recently one of the many things on the news that makes me shake my head in disappointment and thought quietly, "people need to get a life!" and I heard within, "a LOVE life!"

As I enter 2016 with focus and intention of getting out of God's way, I am kick starting my year with 31 DAILY LOVE HABITS! These are 31 simple and quick actionable steps . . . responses to God, that you too can incorporate into your daily life. Each love habit is designed to help you experience love in every area of your life!

At the end of 31 days, my heart is that you will have an encounter with LOVE that creates room for you to experience authentic love . . .

  • maybe for the first time
  • without expecting something in return
  • without limitation

With that being said, I would like to invite you to take this 31 day journey with me starting January 1st!

Here's all you need to get started:

  • Sign up by CLICKING HERE
  • Be open and willing to receive whatever comes
  • Give 100% of yourself to the process

THAT'S IT! Simple, right?

Yay!!! I am so glad you think so too! I am really excited about 2016 and what God has in store. See you on January 1st as we kick off
31 days of LOVE! 

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Holiday Skin Care Gift Guide

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For as long as I can remember, people have complimented me on my skin! Most recently, one of my "besties", referred to me as "the skin care guru!"  She’s highlights my skin care regimen to everyone who needs a little more moisture, shine or sparkle in their skin care routine. She knows, I am a wellness junkie who loves my skin care products!

So, I thought, I would share my skin care regimen, step-by-step in addition to creating a Holiday Gift Guide for those who are looking for more sparkle and shine from their lips to their toes! The products I am about to share are products that I absolutely LOVE and personally just can’t live without. I use them daily and they, in conjunction with God's love make my skin glow!
One of my favorite "ME" times of day is when I get to pamper my skin! So lets dive right into my top picks.

MORNING SKINCARE ROUTINE

GIFT IDEA #1 - A Perfect World Antioxidant Cleanser with White Tea.
STEP ONE: I use this cleanser by squeezing a small dollop onto my fingers, and rubbing in a small circular motion all over my face. It lathers well. Rinse and wipe with warm water. It feels great!

GIFT IDEA #2 - Origins A Perfect World™ Age-Defense Treatment Lotion with White Tea
STEP TWO: I place a few dabs of this product on a cotton pad and rub all over my face and fan my face quickly with my hands afterwards, for an extra cooling effect! Yass! . . . pamper!

GIFT IDEA #3 - Origins A Perfect World White Tea Skin Guardian
STEP THREE: This is one of my favorite products, not only because I know its purpose is to provide protection against unwanted wrinkles, but it gives me extra moisture and I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the way it smooths on my skin. Don't forget sisters to put it on your face and neck! Did I say I was 45? Yass! for my White Tea Guardian!

GIFT IDEA #4 - Origins A Perfect World™ SPF 25 Age-Defense Moisturizer with White Tea
STEP FOUR: Lastly, I put on my moisturizer for the day, now the key is to make sure that you have SPF in it.  I use SPF 25 even though I have awesome melonin, but who wants age spots at any shade? Nevertheless, just use it!

EVENING SKINCARE ROUTINE

GIFT IDEA #5 - Clinique Take The Day Off Make Up Remover
I begin with this make-up remover to remove all excess makeup. I love this product because it's easy, inexpensive and it doesn't leave a cloudy film over my eyes after taking off my eye makeup. Yes! I use it all over!

REPEAT STEPS 1-3 ABOVE

GIFT IDEA #6 High-Potency Night-A-Mins™Mineral-enriched Renewal Cream   
I use this moisturizer because I like the way it feels and I love knowing that I am taking care of my skin while I am sleeping. Plus, I'm giving it the "renewal" vitamins it needs!

GIFT IDEA #7 Modern Friction™Nature's Gentle Dermabrasion
I only use this product TWICE a week on Wednesdays and Sundays during my bedtime routine! This helps to keep my skin looking vibrant, alive and it contributes to the glow and sparkle that I believe people notice most about my skin. I love this product because it's not grainy or too harsh and you won't find grains on your skin days later like some of the other products I've tried.  Put a little on your fingers with warm water, rub together, rub all over your face, add water as needed to get a good lather.  Remember to include your neck, and rinse several times using a wash cloth. VOILA!

SHOWER ROUTINE

GIFT IDEA #8 Laura Mercier Body and Bath - Creme de Pistache Body Scrub
Just like exfoliating your face, it's necessary to exfoliate your body to maintain the healthy glow, moisture and softness that keep your skin looking young, taught and bright! Although, my husband complains about my routine, he LOVES the benefit of cuddling next to soft, smooth skin!

GIFT IDEA #9 Philosophy - Amazing Grace Firming Body Emulsion Jumbo Limited Edition
Once I get out of the shower, I look forward to this next step! When I found this product, I was hooked for life! Not only is is a great value for the price, but the smell is ah-mazing and the name alone is perfect for pampering your body...Amazing Grace! *Christy's Personal Favorite

GIFT IDEA #10 Kenzo Amour By Kenzo Eau De Parfum Spray (Fuchsia Edition)
What woman doesn't love to smell amazing! Well, I have tried a ton of perfumes! I even worked for women's fragrances before in my 20's and I have never gotten more compliments than I have when I wear this fragrance. It comes in a fun, sleek, yet sexy bottle and it's affordable! This has become my staple.  I love it! It's simple, classy and fabulous.

BONUS GIFT IDEA:
Mary Lou's Weigh Platform

This is a scale that records your weight in 10 pound increments but never shows you numbers! For years, I measured my self-worth by the numbers on the scale. If they were higher than I thought they were supposed to be, I wasn't good enough.  This was a battle for decades! One of my clients introduced me to this wonderful tool that I wish I had years ago, when I started my self-love journey. I highly recommend adding this to your LOVE LIFE TOOL BOX.

 

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Posted on December 19, 2015 .